The Philosophy Behind Tiny Independent People

What does it mean to parent with realism?

For me, it means acknowledging that even though I had daydreamed my children's entire life stories before they were even born, that ultimately my best laid plans would fall to the wayside because they are whole beings with minds of their own.

It means that I strive to use my background knowledge of how children develop and years of working with with small children to guide my child with enriching activities and experiences but sometimes we're just going to take a beat and watch just a little too much TV.

It means that sometimes I won't say the right thing, or make the right choice in the moment, but that those small missteps are insignificant in the long run, and that being able to get down to my child's level and to look them in the eye and say "I'm sorry, that wasn't a good choice I made" will right many wrongs, and strengthen our relationship.

It means taking the time to talk to my child and validate his feelings and emotions, taking the extra minute to have discussions, all while setting hard boundaries. Knowing that sometimes there isn't space for a discussion, sometimes they just need to listen I.e. when safety is involved.

It means valuing myself, and my partner as individuals, and as a couple. Ensuring that our own needs are met and nurtured so that we can continue running our tiny circus as a team.

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